YOUR TEENAGE BOYFRIEND IS A HORMONE BOMB

 

A letter from a girl who has shyly signed behind a pen name flower:
“I’m in a relationship with a guy for the past seven months, we love each other a lot but… he has now imposed a condition that if I love him, I should have sex with him. I told him honestly that I am not going to do it. It is not necessary that just because we love each other immensely and madly that we have to have sex. He says he loves me, but also wants to possess me physically. Or else, he says he’ll just leave me. I can’t leave him because I love him. What do I do?”

Oh God. Oh God, what a quandary. He wants to do it, but you don’t want to do it. He says sleep with me or walk. You say I won’t sleep with you, but I won’t walk either. You are scared of his lust, while he is maddened with it.
     I know a lot of women readers might disagree with me, but I happen to side the boy’s viewpoint. The days of chivalrous platonic love are over. I doubt whether they ever existed outside fairy tales in the first place.
     Any healthy teenage boy is riddled with hormones and flush with testosterone. He doesn’t have the mindset or maturity to think of love as anything more than an opportunity to have sex.
     His girlfriend can start off a conversation about anything, but you can be sure that in few minutes he will divert it towards sex. If he doesn’t do that , then he is too old for his age and not normal.
     For teenage boys the whole point of having a girlfriend is to jump into bed with her. They get quickly bored with too much talk of love and tenderness, and get tired of just holding hands. They want to grab a girl and kiss, then hug and then…
Boys also hang out with their own groups, where they get their male bonding and thrills. Girls are meant for fun, not just for long boring walks (which they will have, for sure) or long syrupy love talk (which they will talk, as long as they feel they will one day get to have sex).
     So my young friend, please understand this. Your boyfriend was quite honest when he told you to either have sex with him or leave him. He was giving you a practical option, which expressed his sincerity. The fact that he didn’t impose himself on you so far, speaks of his decency.
     The fact that he is lusting for you implies he is just a normal healthy boy.
     The fact that he is now irritated and impatient implies that he is being driven up a wall by your firm and persistent “no”.
I am not advising you to have sex with him. Not at all. You must do what your instincts tell you. If your instincts say “don’t even think of sex”, then you must not.
     But please understand that you are walking around with a hormone bomb in your arms, a guy who is about to explode with frustration of not having sex.
     If you continue this way, you will turn him into a nut case or worse. It’s far better to let him go. Let him find someone else who will give him what he wants, and make him happy.
     You go look for a boy who is willing to just hod hands and take long walks and sigh at sunsets and smile at flowers.

Source: Deccan Chronicle (4th Sep 2011)

Author: Mani Shankar
             (The author, a film director, helping the youth strike a balance in their relationships)

YULM Chapter 3

“Ups and downs are the part of life and living happy in these ups and downs is the Art of life” –sri sri ravi shankara…

These kind of dialogue are been taught to a man when he is in his mid of journey to life and very close to death….But the fact is that more than this kinda stuff we learn at our school days itself..by self experience….

The girl you love or have an imagination that you are loving has expressed the same feelings to you. How do you think that day will go for you.?? Of course a ‘Happy’ should be a straight answer. But in real life the first dialogue of Sri Sri Sri Ravi Shankara happens to be true.

All these day…almost full year my mind went on thinking that how to propose her and now when I did and even she replied the same..My mind went blank..Now what? And they Happily Lived Ever After….!!! Sorry to admit you guys the story is mine and it had to go my way…

I use to get up early, Take bath every day (it sucks) and on my bicycle ride to school half an hour before to see the first sight of Snigdha entering form School gate and then spend at least 15 minutes of walk till cycle stand together. And form today the whole seen is subjected to change now. Now that the girl is mine I need not work hard for the stuff. This was the first day I reached Late to my school life..I had no plan to execute on what if the girl really replies to your proposal as “YES! I DO”

Somehow scolded and punshied for coming late to class I reached my schooling and saw Snigdha sitting on the same bench as before..as if there is no change in her life. My last dialogue isn’t really true. In her thots she has already chanded her as well as my life on a one go.

“Oh dear, you came late today” she said, and like a decent school story telling boy I explained what happed to me form the movement I woke up.

On that day I never realized that no one ever asked me of my early arrival but this day is quite different. Wow I am enjoying it.

We spent more and more time together, After every class we expected the present teacher to go out early and next teacher to enter late. All was in my mind to spend more and more time with her. The games period was all we needed to live the world and be alone where no one disturbs our talk and we are in limitless boundary of imaginations planning our future.

I hated the last class bell that is going to separate us form spending time together but according to school rules we have to leave the campus as soon as the last bell rings. This was the first day I entered the class late and have left the school campus very very late…

When I said B Bye to her followed by “Love You” I got a quick reply “Don’t say it a loud” and we got separated…I thought there is something strange but enjoyable to romance by hiding and feel the nasha of love.

The day was different and quite enjoyable. It was Happiness that we search in every positives and negatives of our partner (In every ups and downs). In fact there is no negatives of our partner when we are in love.

Love makes us Really Blind….!!!!!

Entering A new Estate

After completion of my B.tech degree I headed to Hyderabad for Gate coaching classes. A new place brings lots of hopes as well as worries along.

First two days were the most frustative one. Our sir from helpBiotech assured us to come two or three days early and we will search room for you.

The movement we reached here the assured above statement was true except for the fact of a substitution of You instead of we.

So now its was our duty to search room in an unknown place with no place to live that day, having roughly about zero idea of the economic spending and an exhausted body due to travelling.

Though it was a sudden shock for us that helpBiotech provides only a idea about helping yourself, but even learning this was a pleasant experience.

After long tiring two day seach with spending a huge sum of money on  our roaming charges on mobile network. We finally arrived at a Green Colour 2BHK flat. Quite costly but a peaceful place to live.

Our flat owner Dr. Vijju(in short) was very helpful person. He guided me to various economic places nearby which was very necessary for a student life.

After having a peaceful shelter to stay and a personal room to think freely I hope all our worries will turn small and my next post will have more positivity than this one…

Signing off till next internet session.

Tapish M Dongre

Time Travels and We Sleep!!

Imagine you by any means of accident get into comma. A deep sleep may be for a day, a month or some years. Lets fix 10 years.

You are sleeping on a bed and have a memory of the last good night kiss before dropping your girlfriend to her house. Your dad and mom worrying about why you came late in house this night. Your brother or sister asks to promise that you will do their work as soon as possible. And you sleep for right 10 years on your bed having no idea of what is happening around you.

And after a long duration you get up form bed finding your body has become huge. Your girlfriend is married to some other guy and your mom and dad no longer to welcome you…

It could happen worse or it could happen a great fortune….anything….

But in my view the point to note is this happens every day to you. You go to bed and sleep for certain amount of time. The clock is still tickling on your wall. The whole world turns around and completes half a rotation till the morning and before you get up, many things might have changed….

So better sleep less and work more as Time Waits for None.

Why People Talk…..

I mean to say why people do actually communicate ? Its most often that we ask a sick person that if he or she is fine and in reply we find an answer to that “Yes I am.” where as the actual fact remains untouched or untold.

It is most often that we do lie. The word ‘lie’ is not at all a negative word. I mean if we really understand the human behavior to various situation, there is a needy necessity for lying. Its start form a mother to her child that “do not demand of chocolate or luxury items as it may contain devil or untrue evil spirit” which actually keeps the children out of reach of the commodity form which the kid has to be protected form.

Many disclosures in many industry share a very small piece of information with the consumer and the seller itself is not telling you the truth as he himself does not have any information over the product.

Many of the time a simple decent individual replies to a query that “the job will be done in five minutes.” When in actual practical terms the given work is physically not possible to carry out in five minutes by what so ever means the job is being done.

In fact I want to say the actual terms Human tells other Human only the word which keeps the receiver in stable emotional condition. You may perceive this dialog in a positive terminology that:

“We tell others or speak only the words which will bring about a positive change or a positive hope that carries the human tendency to feel comfortable with.”

 

Other websites of Intrest

Six Stifflers

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Another blog by me….Caution: Read this blog only if you are above 18 years of age.

Anupam Jyoit

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A blog website of my college friend about drawing, designing and topic related to her field of intrest

Kritika Dongre

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Blog written by my Sister “Kritka Dongre” formally known as Dolly. This Blogs tells about her life and views.

Mlind R Dongre

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My grandfather had a habit of writing dairy in his mood of interest. So here are some Pages of his Dairy which I found on his house.

A Note 2 Human

(Original writing date: 12th August 2010 )

Humans ! Human are the dominant species of 20th century. With the power of knowledge and exposure to exploit a vast number of species, they decide the life of others.

Human decide the selection of the most productive speicies to live and others to die. Even there are examples that human favors a spices of food chain to suppress or modify the population of other.

Human need “grain” to feed upon and rats spoil them. Thus to reduce the “rat” population, human favor the life of “snakes”.

At a microbiology lab, microbes useful to human are re-cultured and the one of less importance are killed by using selective media.

Though Your are the Dominant species of today, I want to inform you that I promise you of a day when I will be the Snake in the life of you all Rats !!


Tapish Dongre

Biotechnologist

The Brain…..

Source of  !dea: Source code(2011)

Our Brain makes us do all the work . Our brain controls our body part. Our brain controls the movement of our middle finger of our right hand. How do we know that our brain could?

The link lies in the answer:

“What You Believe Is The TRUTH”

You   <–>  Brain  <–>  Truth

If you think you have the potential to move a finger of your right hand, then you are able to. If you think you can’t, then you can’t. It means that  a person is paralytic with his hand  if he believes that he cannot move his right hand. Its your brain makes you active and  allows you to control all your body parts and this could happen only if you believe that this could happen.

Another example is :

Gravitation acts on any body around the planet and we are confident that we will fall to ground because we strongly believe in the concept of Gravitation. But if you don’t believe, I mean strongly disbelieve the gravitation then there you have the power to “walk on walls” or “fly” against the Gravitation. What you require is a strong believe that the concept is true. Matrix et al.(1999)

This can again be explained that you want SUCCESS in life. Then you need to strongly believe in yourself. And when you do that, you are automatically a successful person. This works as the “Truth Lies in Your Believe.”

-Tapish M. Dongre

 

What You Are Watiching…????

CAM:

A copy made in a cinema using a camcorder, possibly mounted on a tripod. The sound source is the camera microphone. Cam rips can quickly appear online after the first preview or premiere of the film. The quality ranges from terrible to very good, depending on the group of persons performing the recording and the resolution of the camera used. The main disadvantage of this is the sound quality. The microphone does not only record the sound from the movie, but also the background sound in the cinema. The camera can also record movements of the audience in the theater, for instance, whensomeone stands up in front of the screen.


TS (Telesync) / Pre-DVD :

Contrary to popular belief, the video quality of a TS is not necessarily better than a cam. The term Telesync doesn’t indicate better video quality but better audio quality. The CAM source is then synchronized with a secondary audio recording, either done with a professional microphone in an empty cinema (even though by Scene Rules this would be nuked since the audio is not direct, they are hard to tell the difference), fed directly from the cinema’s sound system, or captured from an FM radio transmission intended for hearing-impaired customers. Often, a cam is mislabeled as a telesync. PDVD, also known as Pre-DVD, is a release type found mostly in India and/or for Indian movies, with Bollywood movies being the majority. Low quality CAM/TS releases in India put on a DVD and sold on the streets, which are ripped by some release groups and released as PDVD-rips. They are often mistaken for being DVD-rips, due to the name.


Workprint :

A copy made from an unfinished version of a film produced by the studio. Typically a workprint has missing effects and overlays, and often differ from its theatrical release. Some workprints have a time index marker running in a corner or on the top edge; some may also include a watermark. A workprint might be an uncut version, and missing some material that would appear in the final movie.


TC (Telecine) :

A copy captured from a film print using a machine that transfers the movie from its analog reel todigital format. These were rare because telecine machines for making these prints were very costly and very large, however, recently they have become much more common. Telecine has basically the same quality as DVD, since the technique is same as digitizing the actual film to DVD. However, the result is inferior since the source material is usually a lower quality copy reel. Telecine machines usually cause a slight left-right jitter in the picture and have inferior color levels compared to DVD.


PPV (Pay-Per-View Rip):

PPVRips come from Pay-Per-View sources, all the PPVRip releases are brand new movies which have not yet been released to Screener or DVD but are available to view by Hotel customers.
Screener (SCR / DVDSCR / BDSCR):

These are early DVD or BD releases of the theatrical version of a film, typically sent to movie reviewers, Academy members, and executives for review purposes. A screener normally has a message overlaid on its picture, with wording similar to: “The film you are watching is a promotional copy, if you purchased this film at a retail store please contact 1-800-NO-COPIES to report it.” Apart from this, some movie studios release their screeners with a number of scenes of varying duration shown in black-and-white. Aside from this message, and the occasional B&W scenes, screeners are normally of only slightly lower quality than a retail DVD-Rip, due to the smaller investment in DVD mastering for the limited run. Some screener rips with the overlay message get cropped to remove the message and get released misslabled as DVD-Rips. Note: Screeners make a small exception here, since the content may differ from a retail version, it can be considered as lowerquality than a DVD-Rip (even if the screener in question was sourced from a DVD).


Digital Distribution Copy (DDC):

DDC is basically the same as a Screener, but sent digitally (email/ftp/http/etc.) to companies insteadof via the postal system. This makes distribution cheaper. Its quality is lower than one of a R5 but higher than a Cam or a Telesync.


R5 :

The R5 is a retail DVD from region 5. Region 5 consists of the Indian subcontinent, Africa, North Korea, and Mongolia. R5 releases differ from normal releases in that they are a direct Telecine transfer of the film without any of the image processing. If the DVD does not contain an English-language audio track, the R5 video is synced to a previously released English audio track. Then a LiNE tag is added. This means that the sound often isn’t as good as DVD-Rips.


DVD :

A final retail version of a film, typically released before it is available outside its originating region. Often after one group of pirates releases a high-quality DVD-Rip, the “race” to release that film will stop. Because of their high quality, DVD-Rips generally replace any earlier copies that may already have been circulating.
DVD-R:

A final retail version of a film in DVD format, generally a complete copy from the original DVD. If the original DVD is released in the DVD-9 format, however, extras might be removed and/or the video re-encoded to make the image fit the less expensive for burning and quicker to download DVD-5 format. DVD-R releases often accompany DVD-Rips. DVD-R rips are larger in size, generally filling up the 4.37 or 7.95 GiB provided by DVD-5 and DVD-9 respectively.Untouched or lossless rips in the strictest sense are 1:1 rips of the source, with nothing removed or changed, though often the definition is lightened to includeDVDs which have not been transcoded, andno features were removed from the user’sperspective, removing only restrictions and possible nuisances such as copyright warnings and movie previews.


HDTV / DS (TVRip / DSR / PDTV / HDTV / DVB / DTH) :

TVRip is a capturesource from an analog capture card (coaxial/composite/s-video connection)Digital satellite rip (DSR) is a rip that is captured from a non standard definition digital source like satellite.HDTV or PDTV or DTH (Direct To Home)ripsoften come from Over-the-Air transmissions. With an HDTV source, the quality can sometimes even surpass DVD. Movies in this format are starting to grow in popularity.Analog, DSR, and PDTV sources are often re-encoded to 512„1¤7384 if fullscreen, 640„1¤7352 if widescreen. HDTV sources are re-encoded to multiple resolutions such as 640„1¤7352 (360p), 960„1¤7528 (540p), 1280„1¤7720 (720p) at various file sizes for pirated releases. They can be progressive scan captured or not (480i digital transmission).


BD / BR :

Similar to DVD-Rip, only the source is a Blu-ray Disc. ABD/BR Rip in DVD-Rip size often looks better than a same-size DVD rip because encoders have better source material. What is commonly misunderstood among downloaders is that a BDRip and a BRRip is exactly the same. A BDRip comes directly from the BluRay source, and BRRip is encoded from a pre-release, usually from a1080p BDRip from another group. BD Rips are available in DVD-Rip sized releases (commonly 700MB and 1.4GB) encoded in XviD as well as larger DVD5 or DVD9 (often 4.5gb or larger, depending on length and quality) sized releases encoded in x264. BD5 or BD9 are also available, which are slightly smaller than their counterpart DVD5/DVD9 releases, are AVCHD compatible using the BD Folder structure and are intended to be burnt onto DVDs toplay in AVCHD compatible Blu-Ray players. More recent types, probably associated with the use of newsgroups and cheaper storage at home, are complete BluRay copies(images). Commonly referred to as BD25 or BD50 and may or may not be remuxed (but not transcoded).


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Teacher Can Learn

You can grasp anything for anywhere only to a limit that you are wanted to. So the first thing to be taught to any student is the “need” to study that subject being taught. If a student is “wants” to study any subject then he will do so by his own wish. Student can sit for hours to read a novel and the same student gets bored in a 45 minutes lecture.

Similar kind of knowledge is being taught by making a child to dream big. Dreaming big and then to follow it. The next step is to guide him to the path he wishes to follow. Sometimes it happens that a teacher or a parent forces a child to follow their dreams or to do things they planned for him, but in doing so the teacher completely forgets to make an interest in the subject to be taught. The result is always the child thinks the lesson taught to him is a dull one.

Mostly the path of a student changes when he starts to follow his heart. To listen to what he really want to, and when he does this, the first blame from teacher is that: “student is misguided” or “student is deviated from the path.” Now the force ‘to follow the commands of a teacher’ increases and the same happens with the ‘student desire’. This only leads to two of the mentioned result:

(1) If student follow the teacher’s command, he becomes a successful unwillingful worker.

(2) If student follows his heart, he becomes successful artist but thrown out of so called society.

 

In both the cases the real teaching and learning process is kept aside. There always has to be a third option of the above mentioned problem. I mean its your life and you can definitely make it more complex or more simple by only a way i.e., change  and express your thoughts. I gave you a simple problem to solve. If you have solution please discuss it with the world and do comment to share it with me….

Desperately waiting..

Tapish Dongre