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The Flight

Usually, an airplane, a train, a bus, or simply any vehicle is just a mode of transport. But today I want to write about just a few moments before taking that transport.

For my story, we arbitrarily start the night before I was going to take my first flight to Australia. I had to catch this flight from Bombay (Mumbai as it is now called, though internationally people still remember it as Bombay), while I was living in Nagpur. Approx 800km distance in between them.

So the night before my first flight I took a Train from Nagpur to Mumbai and moments before the start of the journey, there were tremendous emotions flowing all over the place. First I was going to miss this train. And the emotional trauma still follows me to this date, that feeling of what if I will miss my first International travel opportunity only because I am going to miss this train. Randomly I get the dream that this will happen again even though I am over 10 years residing in Australia.

There were more, more emotional pieces of baggage. On one side, completely opposite side of the platform were my parents and sister who arrived at the train station before me. On another side, were in an autorickshaw on the completely opposite side of the platform trying to enter the train station while the train was already ready to leave.

At this moment I was going to get separated from my girlfriend (now wife) and there was neither time nor the opportunity for an informal goodbye kiss. And the recent time I met my parents they still remember (actually complain) that I did not say my goodbyes properly.

For the next 5 mins I ran, I ran like a maniac. Holding a fully filled 30kg checking bag while my girlfriend was running behind holding my cabin bag which actually had my passports and boarding tickets. The train has already started moving and somehow I jumped in a running train leaving so many emotions behind (as well as my checking and bag). I saw my parents, girlfriend, and probably the riksha-wala running behind me. (Ya we forgot to clear the payments for the autorickshaw and my girlfriend gave him money later on.) They all chased after me and pushed all my luggage one after the other and I did catch the last Duronto Express from Nagpur to Mumbai.

On the train, I did think I am leaving behind the frustration of joblessness, and the emotionally challenging bond that I and my girlfriend had at the time. And I am leaving behind several unsolved undiscussed conversations with my parents where I was upset or it was just teenage anger. But as soon as I boarded that train, there was some sense of relief.

Several years later if I would talk to a psychologist about this situation, I bet she will discover that I always had that fight or flight mentality where I am mostly running away from my problems rather than facing them head-on.

Some situation that night and the day I caught my flight seems so stupid now and remembering them feels so awkward. For example, in Mumbai, I met my collegemate and a very good friend Bharatlal with whom I used to share the deepest of my secrets. I took out all the Indian currency in my pocket and gave it to him saying, “What use I will have of this abroad ?” (I agree I was stupid, I did not know there are currency exchange counters at all international airports). To this day my friend remembers this dialogue “Money from one country will be just like papers in another.” Probably we both were stupid at the time. Or as a famous comedian rightly said, “ALL FRIENDSHIPS ARE DEPENDENT UPON MUTUAL IGNORENCE.”

But that time I had several issues with the people whom I was surrounded with. Bharatlal knew that. And he also knew that I am also scared to go to Australia as well. Hopeful as well as scared. Before getting inside the airport, he took out his half-broken MP3 player and gave me his headphones with a tuned-in song, “AA-ZAA-DIYA (Pairo ki Bediya)” from the movie UDAAN.

Music has the power to drill down as well as build up a person’s emotions. Thus, that is the only thing I focus and hold on to while remembering that stressful emotional rollercoaster time before my first flight. The song AA ZAA DIYA….

How was your experience on taking your first flight or first step into a new journey ???? Please do share in the comments section below.

See you in the next post or next life, whichever comes earlier.

-Tapish

Inner Child Wounds

I struggle myself a lot to cope with a few of the below-mentioned “Wounds” but after reading the comments under the original post, I discovered I was not alone. Indians by default live under the influence that “Parents are the Perfect Beings” and thus mosty anytime I expressed this to my classmates and colleagues, they did find a fault in me in even expressing my feelings on this subject. Then I discovered more about intergenerational trauma and the ability to cope with it. It is nice to know that even other people who have faced similar issues were able to come out of their childhood traumas and live a decent life for themselves and the next generations. One of the best lines I could read in the comment section by Markus Wilson was, “I forgive him, or should I say, I forgive myself for wanting him to be more than he could be.”

Hope I could fix the repetitive stories in my head or at least give them a proper ending. For a Better Future.

Cheers

Tapish Dongre

April 2022

Inner Child Wounds. Image Courtecy Facebook “The Soul Journey with Saraha Moussa”

P.S. You can read the original comments by clicking the link below. It will redirect you to the original post on Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/377700549450190/photos/a.377728092780769/1045385662681672

Perceptive Thinking on E-Baba’s Birthday

The Adam Project (Netflix 2022)

So 16th March 2022 about 00:00am I got the Google Notification that it’s “E-Baba’s Birthday”. For those of you who have not read the previous articles I wrote on E-Baba, he is my paternal Uncle having very high moral grounds in my perception.

With the notification came a moral dilemma, should I even wish him or not?

I know wishing any person on his/her birthday is a positive social activity. But to wish E-Baba there are various Caveat attached. The most prominent one was that I was somewhat angry with him myself. Don’t get me wrong, he still holds a high moral value as a perceptive being. But his clashes with his own family made him choose an action in the past where he left everyone hanging dry. His side of the story is true that he was hurt. But hurt people hurt other people, consciously or unconsciously. Thus when he had fought with his brothers and left the main house, there was no fault of us at that time, that we deserve his isolation. And for leaving me as a kid, unguided, that really made me angry.

In later years, due to good circumstances, now that he is making his efforts to re-console with his brothers and sharing happy memories of them being together, this, in turn, made me angrier. That, “all the years of anger that I had held on to, was that of no use or no worth”?

Watching this movie “The Adam Project” I was able to have another perception of myself. In a conversion in this movie, (exactly at the time of this picture above) it is expressed that we tend to be angry when we grow up, or tend to, not because we are really angry. But in fact, because we are sad. It is easier to be ‘Angry’ than to be ‘Sad’. To mourne from our pain and then to recover. Is easier to blame others and tend to relive the made-up stories than to face the hurtful truth. Since this whole month I am trying to accept my own one truth after another, so thought why not give this theory a chance too.

Instead of being angrier about E-Baba’s constantly changing actions, let’s consider him as a normal human being. A human being who makes mistakes.

And when I think it that way, I am able to think one step ahead of that where I was stuck all these years. And that is, We tend to accept the mistakes of people we love. Or in other words, we tend to ignore the mistakes of people we love and accept the person as a whole being. And whenever we are not able to accept a person as a whole, that is only because we are not able to ignore the mistakes that the person has done to us.

There again comes a choice in the present moment, when we are all alive, Not in memories but here in flesh and blood. Time for new bonds, time for new memories, time for new fights, and time for new love. I think I can get past this mental stuck and move in a new direction. Not a right or wrong direction, as no one could judge where our future lies. But at least one step ahead of our past stuck.

So somehow grabbed the number from my cousin’s sister and texted him, “Happy Birthday“

Unfortunately, this is not a complete story as it is rolling on this present timeline, thus even I don’t know where my or others’ actions will lead in the future, but till that time when my heart beats more than normal that compel me to write more about E-Baba, I can only Say it is “To Be Continued….”

See you in the next post or next life, whichever comes earlier.

Signing off for now

Tapish Dongre

FREE Course Online: Website Review

The domain name https://www.freecoursesonline.me/?1 may or may not work in the near future if/when you might be reading this article a few years down the road. This is a website to offer free copies of the paid courses available online.

Using so much paid and unpaid material to study last year, I was considering myself a borderline pirate with a quite amorphous morality. On one side I wanted to contribute to the makers of all the courses I am consuming, on the other hand, I was financially struggling myself. Thus in the future, if I make a course and you are pirating it in some way, I promise I will be able to understand and empathize with you with my full heart as today I am in that position myslef.

A Screenshot of this website looks something like this:

Screenshot of FreeCourseOnline Website

Now that you know about my moral ambiguity, we can continue to discuss how this website is of benefit to any person who wanted to learn or get a glimpse of the content on famous paid platforms before investing in the content.

  1. It has a huge collection of Cources
  2. Compressed file size for eazy download
  3. Web/Server based application dosent work as it require a paid account
  4. All other content including videos, books or open source content is free and accessible
  5. Cources are well organised
  6. You can request an upload of a course, but it dose take time to rip them and upload.

There might be many more points I can comment on but if this website or certain thing of this kind remains in the future, please do write it in the comments section below. And if you can, please do buy the paid courses to contribute to the creators.

Signing off for now

Tapish Dongre

Ali Abdaal’s “How to Study for Exams” – An Evidence-Based Masterclass

Right at 11:58 pm on a Sunday just 4 days shy from new years eve 2022, I completed Ali Abdaal’s class on “How to Study for Exam” and here is a short review about it.

Is the Course Worth it?

The short, one-word answer is “YES”. But since I am too excited and being long term fan of Ali Abdaal’s work on Youtube, I would like to elaborate it was a wonderful journey only to learn 3 key ingredients about studying for anything. Giving some spoilers and no spoilers ahead, they were to UNDERSTAND, REMEMBER and FOCUS. But these three words cannot sum up the course as there were more than 100 other points in the course to learn out of which I can retain only 60% knowledge. (Based on my capacity to process the data I learned at this stage of life).

WHY did I take this Course?

I am trying my best to complete the IBM Data Science Course I signed up for last November, and it has been almost a year since I am unable to complete it. I kept missing out on the information or losing motivation or just not focused enough. Internally I don’t want to be the person who signed up for something and left it midway, even after knowing how important it is. Thus now I wanted to know if am I doing something wrong in my study technique that I am unable to reach my target. And these unique situations lead to my search for “how to learn better”. Few Google Search and a few friends of friends recommendations took me to a specific link on SkillShare and that was this course:

https://www.skillshare.com/classes/How-to-Study-for-Exams-An-Evidence-Based-Masterclass/728748026?via=user-profile

How much time does it take to complete the Course?

The point here is not how much time did it take me to go through one run of the whole video played at 1x speed. But it is more important how we think about how much can we learn in any given amount of time. But I will not hide any truth in this article. It took me a whole week to go through the material of the course including the time I spent absorbing and assimilating the material I just consumed. Probably others can do it within 24 hours by binge-watching the content. But if you need to learn something from it, it would be great to at least keep 3 days to one week in hand just to try out a few of the new techniques we learned

What’s Next?

As mentioned in the course about “Active Recall” and “Spaced repetition,” I would probably try to implement the skills I upgraded and try to go through the re-wired learning methodology I was just enlightened with. Hopefully, I can use these skills soon for learning anything in life and currently complete the Data Science Course with a more focused and enthusiastic approach.

I will make it or not, in either case, I will keep this blog updated on how did I go further.

Happy New Year in Advance

Best Regards

Tapish

Pro Python 3

In general, I don’t openly promote piracy but as joining multiple groups learning python, data science, and cloud I came across many resources.

Some resources are freely available and some are heavy on our pocket.

The views expressed by fellow learners put me into the moral dilemma of, “to what extent the resources should be charged and to what extent they should be available for free?”

I have decided from time to time I would share some of these resources which will enable everyone to grow as a collective community.

One of the links I got recently introduced with from a FB group about Python Programming is :

“PRO Python 3 Features and Tools for Professional Development” by J. Burton Browning and Marty Alchin

All rights to the book are reserved to the respective owner, and the book is available to download only for a short period of time till the kind fellow humans keep the sharing link active.

To download please follow the link: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1t5UdLIEEagIOTtoRyDBlcvUSSCJYBdIr/

Also if the link is not available in the future, please write it in the comments section below and I will remove this post.

Thanks

Tapish Dongre

Data Science Methodology (IBM)

Compleated another certificate realted to data Science. This was was step by step explainaiton of the whole procedure of a Data Science project. It showed the pattern as a whole instead of goind too much deep into how each operation is being done. In the discussion coloum of the IBM portal some students found it way too eazy, whereas the idea of working with so much data and numbers on a excell sheet in future overwelmed me a bit.

So finally I overcame my fears and compleated this bit and here is the link to flaunt on another certificate from IBM

https://coursera.org/share/728d9ea3de111e743bf30d7be0dd2050

Yes I also love the badging system by IBM and I have three digital version collected till now.

Link: https://www.credly.com/badges/ac38f9af-f9ac-459c-a909-3052efd041f6/public_url

Or the whole collection at https://www.credly.com/users/tapish-dongre/badges

Hope I can add more in the future months.

Year 2021 is looking promising. See you in the next post or next life….

Cheers

Tapish