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Website Renewed & Predominant Thoughts

Renewed this website paying the usual $29 plus taxes Australian, so thought to, better put some words on paper to utilize this digital space.

Fresh thought in my mind is how venerable we are. I have accompanied this planet to complete 35 orbits around the sun, so at this young or old age these thoughts are so predominant in my mind. How Venerable R We?

I am not talking about the mental venerability, that the current trend is talking about. This is true and occupies 90% of my blogging. But this time I am talking about the physical one. We are most dominant species on the planet, or at least we think we are. Then our skin is made of such a elastic material that a metal like iron, copper or any other ductile element can cause a cut to our skin and if untreated we will stop spinning along with the globe.

Though I am hopeful that I could see many things past my age of 90’s living in lavish home that we always plan in our 30’s. But life is unpredictable. Anything can happen in between now and then.

Thus I plan, the stories I would put down as my legacy, would be the interesting ones.

See you in next post or next life, whichever comes the earliest.

-Tapish D

Super Confusing: Girl Math

Recently came across the term “Girl Math”. As if mathematics was not tough enough that we need to study or understand Girl Math. For now, I do not support “Accepting” it as a real logic for your expenses but at least one should give it a try to at least understand how this Girl Maths Works?

I will expand upon this article later on but here are the basic rules:

  1. Divide the item cost by the number of future days of use. : If an item costs $365 (which still looks like a pretty big amount to me to spend on a single transaction). So assume it can be used for 1 year i.e. 365 days. Thus $365 divided by 365 days comes to $1 per day. And now it seems affordable.
  2. Discounts: If an item costs $100, it is on 20% discount. So you earn $20 by buying that item.
  3. Re-Use of money: If you buy an item of $100 and then you return that item i.e. you get back your $100 spent. So now anything bought up this new $100 is free money. So you bought the new items on the second time of purchase for free.
  4. Anything bought by using Cash is actually FREE as money is not deducted from your bank account.
  5. Hidden Cost: If ‘YOU’ noticed it, then there is no Hidden Cost.

How many of these rules did you actually understand ??? Please write it in the comments section below and do tell me if there are more rules than the ones I mentioned, we are students of life probably one day we will be able to learn something from this.

Until next time or next post or next life

Signing off

Tapish Dongre

Why A.I. for Blog Generation?

I was once told, “Writing is like feeling through fingers”. And then I put my pen on paper. Typing on the keyboard gives me the same kind of pleasure. Ya, my words are instantly underlined and my friends cannot laugh at my spelling mistakes nowadays and have a long discussion about why my writing doesn’t work, “It is your spelling mistakes asshole”. These types of conversations are missed, but I still feel, really feel, and express myself while writing blogs using my fingers.

One day, dwelling on past memories, I was writing about how my mom was strict regarding pets in the house. I somehow blamed her for the “Chi-Chi” I was separated from, and I started crying a lot. My wife walked into my work desk and was surprised to see a grown-ass man crying and still continuing to type whatever was going inside my head. (Yeah then she did hug me, and started crying with me without even knowing the reason, Humans are very differently designed I guess )

So in this modern era where slowly I moved from pen and paper to digital screen, it is even harder for me to understand why people nowadays use Artificial intelligence for content production such as “writing”?

If you have come across this article searching for “how to write content using AI?” then sorry to disappoint you, this article/blog post won’t quench your thirst for that knowledge. And in mid 30’s while writing this, I am not even that old that I would completely repell the use of new technology.

Writing is more like a business these days, with more eyeballs to catch, more numbers to be made, and faster mass production of articles and stories which today are easily recognizable that they are written by a robot. I am sure in further years these AI bots will master the craft of storytelling and we will not be able to distinguish if a story is written by a human or an AI bot. But during this transition, I would like to enjoy my time expressing through my fingers what a wonderful era I was born in.

I would also like to thank the handful of readers I have now or would be ever reading this article beyond my death bed. I am glad our paths crossed and we spared a few minutes of time knowing each other’s thought process. And “hi, hello” to the future writers as well. In a time where computers are able to write a 10,000-word article in a matter of seconds, I appreciate your time to pause your life, breathe in and out, meditate, and have a slow-paced enjoyment of designing something that could create wonders in mind. Keep up the good work.

As I learn more, I am also sure I will write more about AI and how human emotions correspond to growth in new tech. But for now, at least for me, it is a slow process in a super-fast world.

See you in the next post or next life, whichever is earliest…

Signing off for now,

Tapish Dongre

Movies of LIFETIME

Some of the Movies I Really Like

Usually the movies we can relate to or really touched you in some way that you appreciate:

Kabhi Alvida Na Khena: Choosing the right partner is not a final decision that cannot be changed. Better than being stuck with the wrong person throughout our life.

Accepted (also the Hindi Remake FALTU): University acceptance doesn’t decide our acceptance as a human beings in life

Patiala House: Father can be strict on what profession/carrier a child should do, irrespective of the child’s happiness in consideration.

Ribbon: Extraordinary problems are mostly faced by ordinary men. The couple faces a very difficult to their children while dealing with their own unsolved issues.

SatyaPrem Ki Katha: Sensitive issues can be handled with excessive love and patience.

Vicky Donor: Sometimes Happiness is already present just not in the form we tailor it to be as per our needs.

OMG: Religion should not be forced on humans

OMG 2: Sex education is important at an early age. I am grateful for my parents who taught me what is right and what is not, as my school didn’t.

Saw Series: Strong motives make us do strong ugly things

Dil Dhadkne Do: Sometimes parents cannot recognize failers in themselves and force their progeny to do things to cover up their own failures.

Kapoor and Sons: Parents can be biased, and sometimes they don’t recognize it.

Dear Zindagi: We need a change in attitude toward the stuff which happened in our childhood that was beyond our control. Counseling and asking for help is a good first step.

The Flight

Usually, an airplane, a train, a bus, or simply any vehicle is just a mode of transport. But today I want to write about just a few moments before taking that transport.

For my story, we arbitrarily start the night before I was going to take my first flight to Australia. I had to catch this flight from Bombay (Mumbai as it is now called, though internationally people still remember it as Bombay), while I was living in Nagpur. Approx 800km distance in between them.

So the night before my first flight I took a Train from Nagpur to Mumbai and moments before the start of the journey, there were tremendous emotions flowing all over the place. First I was going to miss this train. And the emotional trauma still follows me to this date, that feeling of what if I will miss my first International travel opportunity only because I am going to miss this train. Randomly I get the dream that this will happen again even though I am over 10 years residing in Australia.

There were more, more emotional pieces of baggage. On one side, completely opposite side of the platform were my parents and sister who arrived at the train station before me. On another side, were in an autorickshaw on the completely opposite side of the platform trying to enter the train station while the train was already ready to leave.

At this moment I was going to get separated from my girlfriend (now wife) and there was neither time nor the opportunity for an informal goodbye kiss. And the recent time I met my parents they still remember (actually complain) that I did not say my goodbyes properly.

For the next 5 mins I ran, I ran like a maniac. Holding a fully filled 30kg checking bag while my girlfriend was running behind holding my cabin bag which actually had my passports and boarding tickets. The train has already started moving and somehow I jumped in a running train leaving so many emotions behind (as well as my checking and bag). I saw my parents, girlfriend, and probably the riksha-wala running behind me. (Ya we forgot to clear the payments for the autorickshaw and my girlfriend gave him money later on.) They all chased after me and pushed all my luggage one after the other and I did catch the last Duronto Express from Nagpur to Mumbai.

On the train, I did think I am leaving behind the frustration of joblessness, and the emotionally challenging bond that I and my girlfriend had at the time. And I am leaving behind several unsolved undiscussed conversations with my parents where I was upset or it was just teenage anger. But as soon as I boarded that train, there was some sense of relief.

Several years later if I would talk to a psychologist about this situation, I bet she will discover that I always had that fight or flight mentality where I am mostly running away from my problems rather than facing them head-on.

Some situation that night and the day I caught my flight seems so stupid now and remembering them feels so awkward. For example, in Mumbai, I met my collegemate and a very good friend Bharatlal with whom I used to share the deepest of my secrets. I took out all the Indian currency in my pocket and gave it to him saying, “What use I will have of this abroad ?” (I agree I was stupid, I did not know there are currency exchange counters at all international airports). To this day my friend remembers this dialogue “Money from one country will be just like papers in another.” Probably we both were stupid at the time. Or as a famous comedian rightly said, “ALL FRIENDSHIPS ARE DEPENDENT UPON MUTUAL IGNORENCE.”

But that time I had several issues with the people whom I was surrounded with. Bharatlal knew that. And he also knew that I am also scared to go to Australia as well. Hopeful as well as scared. Before getting inside the airport, he took out his half-broken MP3 player and gave me his headphones with a tuned-in song, “AA-ZAA-DIYA (Pairo ki Bediya)” from the movie UDAAN.

Music has the power to drill down as well as build up a person’s emotions. Thus, that is the only thing I focus and hold on to while remembering that stressful emotional rollercoaster time before my first flight. The song AA ZAA DIYA….

How was your experience on taking your first flight or first step into a new journey ???? Please do share in the comments section below.

See you in the next post or next life, whichever comes earlier.

-Tapish

Old Bed Time Stories, new Layout

Just wanted to make a quick post about a new link that I have found.

It is by the Library of Congress online link to read the good old Aesop Fables.

Please check them out they are written in a very crips format.

The link to the website is: https://read.gov/aesop/001.html

And of course, my favorite one is on page number 25: Link https://read.gov/aesop/025.html

You can just click “next” or “back” on the online menu of that website to go to the next story.

An Image to Guide how to use the Website of Stories

Hope this post is helpful

Thanks, see you in next post or next life, whichever comes earliest.

-Tapish

Inner Child Wounds

I struggle myself a lot to cope with a few of the below-mentioned “Wounds” but after reading the comments under the original post, I discovered I was not alone. Indians by default live under the influence that “Parents are the Perfect Beings” and thus mosty anytime I expressed this to my classmates and colleagues, they did find a fault in me in even expressing my feelings on this subject. Then I discovered more about intergenerational trauma and the ability to cope with it. It is nice to know that even other people who have faced similar issues were able to come out of their childhood traumas and live a decent life for themselves and the next generations. One of the best lines I could read in the comment section by Markus Wilson was, “I forgive him, or should I say, I forgive myself for wanting him to be more than he could be.”

Hope I could fix the repetitive stories in my head or at least give them a proper ending. For a Better Future.

Cheers

Tapish Dongre

April 2022

Inner Child Wounds. Image Courtecy Facebook “The Soul Journey with Saraha Moussa”

P.S. You can read the original comments by clicking the link below. It will redirect you to the original post on Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/377700549450190/photos/a.377728092780769/1045385662681672

Perceptive Thinking on E-Baba’s Birthday

The Adam Project (Netflix 2022)

So 16th March 2022 about 00:00am I got the Google Notification that it’s “E-Baba’s Birthday”. For those of you who have not read the previous articles I wrote on E-Baba, he is my paternal Uncle having very high moral grounds in my perception.

With the notification came a moral dilemma, should I even wish him or not?

I know wishing any person on his/her birthday is a positive social activity. But to wish E-Baba there are various Caveat attached. The most prominent one was that I was somewhat angry with him myself. Don’t get me wrong, he still holds a high moral value as a perceptive being. But his clashes with his own family made him choose an action in the past where he left everyone hanging dry. His side of the story is true that he was hurt. But hurt people hurt other people, consciously or unconsciously. Thus when he had fought with his brothers and left the main house, there was no fault of us at that time, that we deserve his isolation. And for leaving me as a kid, unguided, that really made me angry.

In later years, due to good circumstances, now that he is making his efforts to re-console with his brothers and sharing happy memories of them being together, this, in turn, made me angrier. That, “all the years of anger that I had held on to, was that of no use or no worth”?

Watching this movie “The Adam Project” I was able to have another perception of myself. In a conversion in this movie, (exactly at the time of this picture above) it is expressed that we tend to be angry when we grow up, or tend to, not because we are really angry. But in fact, because we are sad. It is easier to be ‘Angry’ than to be ‘Sad’. To mourne from our pain and then to recover. Is easier to blame others and tend to relive the made-up stories than to face the hurtful truth. Since this whole month I am trying to accept my own one truth after another, so thought why not give this theory a chance too.

Instead of being angrier about E-Baba’s constantly changing actions, let’s consider him as a normal human being. A human being who makes mistakes.

And when I think it that way, I am able to think one step ahead of that where I was stuck all these years. And that is, We tend to accept the mistakes of people we love. Or in other words, we tend to ignore the mistakes of people we love and accept the person as a whole being. And whenever we are not able to accept a person as a whole, that is only because we are not able to ignore the mistakes that the person has done to us.

There again comes a choice in the present moment, when we are all alive, Not in memories but here in flesh and blood. Time for new bonds, time for new memories, time for new fights, and time for new love. I think I can get past this mental stuck and move in a new direction. Not a right or wrong direction, as no one could judge where our future lies. But at least one step ahead of our past stuck.

So somehow grabbed the number from my cousin’s sister and texted him, “Happy Birthday“

Unfortunately, this is not a complete story as it is rolling on this present timeline, thus even I don’t know where my or others’ actions will lead in the future, but till that time when my heart beats more than normal that compel me to write more about E-Baba, I can only Say it is “To Be Continued….”

See you in the next post or next life, whichever comes earlier.

Signing off for now

Tapish Dongre