Renewed this website paying the usual $29 plus taxes Australian, so thought to, better put some words on paper to utilize this digital space.
Fresh thought in my mind is how venerable we are. I have accompanied this planet to complete 35 orbits around the sun, so at this young or old age these thoughts are so predominant in my mind. How Venerable R We?
I am not talking about the mental venerability, that the current trend is talking about. This is true and occupies 90% of my blogging. But this time I am talking about the physical one. We are most dominant species on the planet, or at least we think we are. Then our skin is made of such a elastic material that a metal like iron, copper or any other ductile element can cause a cut to our skin and if untreated we will stop spinning along with the globe.
Though I am hopeful that I could see many things past my age of 90’s living in lavish home that we always plan in our 30’s. But life is unpredictable. Anything can happen in between now and then.
Thus I plan, the stories I would put down as my legacy, would be the interesting ones.
See you in next post or next life, whichever comes the earliest.
Recently came across the term “Girl Math”. As if mathematics was not tough enough that we need to study or understand Girl Math. For now, I do not support “Accepting” it as a real logic for your expenses but at least one should give it a try to at least understand how this Girl Maths Works?
I will expand upon this article later on but here are the basic rules:
Divide the item cost by the number of future days of use. : If an item costs $365 (which still looks like a pretty big amount to me to spend on a single transaction). So assume it can be used for 1 year i.e. 365 days. Thus $365 divided by 365 days comes to $1 per day. And now it seems affordable.
Discounts: If an item costs $100, it is on 20% discount. So you earn $20 by buying that item.
Re-Use of money: If you buy an item of $100 and then you return that item i.e. you get back your $100 spent. So now anything bought up this new $100 is free money. So you bought the new items on the second time of purchase for free.
Anything bought by using Cash is actually FREE as money is not deducted from your bank account.
Hidden Cost: If ‘YOU’ noticed it, then there is no Hidden Cost.
How many of these rules did you actually understand ??? Please write it in the comments section below and do tell me if there are more rules than the ones I mentioned, we are students of life probably one day we will be able to learn something from this.
I was once told, “Writing is like feeling through fingers”. And then I put my pen on paper. Typing on the keyboard gives me the same kind of pleasure. Ya, my words are instantly underlined and my friends cannot laugh at my spelling mistakes nowadays and have a long discussion about why my writing doesn’t work, “It is your spelling mistakes asshole”. These types of conversations are missed, but I still feel, really feel, and express myself while writing blogs using my fingers.
One day, dwelling on past memories, I was writing about how my mom was strict regarding pets in the house. I somehow blamed her for the “Chi-Chi” I was separated from, and I started crying a lot. My wife walked into my work desk and was surprised to see a grown-ass man crying and still continuing to type whatever was going inside my head. (Yeah then she did hug me, and started crying with me without even knowing the reason, Humans are very differently designed I guess )
So in this modern era where slowly I moved from pen and paper to digital screen, it is even harder for me to understand why people nowadays use Artificial intelligence for content production such as “writing”?
If you have come across this article searching for “how to write content using AI?” then sorry to disappoint you, this article/blog post won’t quench your thirst for that knowledge. And in mid 30’s while writing this, I am not even that old that I would completely repell the use of new technology.
Writing is more like a business these days, with more eyeballs to catch, more numbers to be made, and faster mass production of articles and stories which today are easily recognizable that they are written by a robot. I am sure in further years these AI bots will master the craft of storytelling and we will not be able to distinguish if a story is written by a human or an AI bot. But during this transition, I would like to enjoy my time expressing through my fingers what a wonderful era I was born in.
I would also like to thank the handful of readers I have now or would be ever reading this article beyond my death bed. I am glad our paths crossed and we spared a few minutes of time knowing each other’s thought process. And “hi, hello” to the future writers as well. In a time where computers are able to write a 10,000-word article in a matter of seconds, I appreciate your time to pause your life, breathe in and out, meditate, and have a slow-paced enjoyment of designing something that could create wonders in mind. Keep up the good work.
As I learn more, I am also sure I will write more about AI and how human emotions correspond to growth in new tech. But for now, at least for me, it is a slow process in a super-fast world.
See you in the next post or next life, whichever is earliest…
Usually the movies we can relate to or really touched you in some way that you appreciate:
Kabhi Alvida Na Khena: Choosing the right partner is not a final decision that cannot be changed. Better than being stuck with the wrong person throughout our life.
Accepted (also the Hindi Remake FALTU): University acceptance doesn’t decide our acceptance as a human beings in life
Patiala House: Father can be strict on what profession/carrier a child should do, irrespective of the child’s happiness in consideration.
Ribbon: Extraordinary problems are mostly faced by ordinary men. The couple faces a very difficult to their children while dealing with their own unsolved issues.
SatyaPrem Ki Katha: Sensitive issues can be handled with excessive love and patience.
Vicky Donor: Sometimes Happiness is already present just not in the form we tailor it to be as per our needs.
OMG: Religion should not be forced on humans
OMG 2: Sex education is important at an early age. I am grateful for my parents who taught me what is right and what is not, as my school didn’t.
Saw Series: Strong motives make us do strong ugly things
Dil Dhadkne Do: Sometimes parents cannot recognize failers in themselves and force their progeny to do things to cover up their own failures.
Kapoor and Sons: Parents can be biased, and sometimes they don’t recognize it.
Dear Zindagi: We need a change in attitude toward the stuff which happened in our childhood that was beyond our control. Counseling and asking for help is a good first step.
I struggle myself a lot to cope with a few of the below-mentioned “Wounds” but after reading the comments under the original post, I discovered I was not alone. Indians by default live under the influence that “Parents are the Perfect Beings” and thus mosty anytime I expressed this to my classmates and colleagues, they did find a fault in me in even expressing my feelings on this subject. Then I discovered more about intergenerational trauma and the ability to cope with it. It is nice to know that even other people who have faced similar issues were able to come out of their childhood traumas and live a decent life for themselves and the next generations. One of the best lines I could read in the comment section by Markus Wilson was, “I forgive him, or should I say, I forgive myself for wanting him to be more than he could be.”
Hope I could fix the repetitive stories in my head or at least give them a proper ending. For a Better Future.
Cheers
Tapish Dongre
April 2022
Inner Child Wounds. Image Courtecy Facebook “The Soul Journey with Saraha Moussa”
So 16th March 2022 about 00:00am I got the Google Notification that it’s “E-Baba’s Birthday”. For those of you who have not read the previous articles I wrote on E-Baba, he is my paternal Uncle having very high moral grounds in my perception.
With the notification came a moral dilemma, should I even wish him or not?
I know wishing any person on his/her birthday is a positive social activity. But to wish E-Baba there are various Caveat attached. The most prominent one was that I was somewhat angry with him myself. Don’t get me wrong, he still holds a high moral value as a perceptive being. But his clashes with his own family made him choose an action in the past where he left everyone hanging dry. His side of the story is true that he was hurt. But hurt people hurt other people, consciously or unconsciously. Thus when he had fought with his brothers and left the main house, there was no fault of us at that time, that we deserve his isolation. And for leaving me as a kid, unguided, that really made me angry.
In later years, due to good circumstances, now that he is making his efforts to re-console with his brothers and sharing happy memories of them being together, this, in turn, made me angrier. That, “all the years of anger that I had held on to, was that of no use or no worth”?
Watching this movie “The Adam Project” I was able to have another perception of myself. In a conversion in this movie, (exactly at the time of this picture above) it is expressed that we tend to be angry when we grow up, or tend to, not because we are really angry. But in fact, because we are sad. It is easier to be ‘Angry’ than to be ‘Sad’. To mourne from our pain and then to recover. Is easier to blame others and tend to relive the made-up stories than to face the hurtful truth. Since this whole month I am trying to accept my own one truth after another, so thought why not give this theory a chance too.
Instead of being angrier about E-Baba’s constantly changing actions, let’s consider him as a normal human being. A human being who makes mistakes.
And when I think it that way, I am able to think one step ahead of that where I was stuck all these years. And that is, We tend to accept the mistakes of people we love. Or in other words, we tend to ignore the mistakes of people we love and accept the person as a whole being. And whenever we are not able to accept a person as a whole, that is only because we are not able to ignore the mistakes that the person has done to us.
There again comes a choice in the present moment, when we are all alive, Not in memories but here in flesh and blood. Time for new bonds, time for new memories, time for new fights, and time for new love. I think I can get past this mental stuck and move in a new direction. Not a right or wrong direction, as no one could judge where our future lies. But at least one step ahead of our past stuck.
So somehow grabbed the number from my cousin’s sister and texted him, “Happy Birthday“
Unfortunately, this is not a complete story as it is rolling on this present timeline, thus even I don’t know where my or others’ actions will lead in the future, but till that time when my heart beats more than normal that compel me to write more about E-Baba, I can only Say it is “To Be Continued….”
See you in the next post or next life, whichever comes earlier.
(SKIP TO THE “5 Points List” below if you wish not to read the Intro, Point number 5 is Important.)
For the last two years, I was more focused on my studies online and I was following the pattern as suggested by the Edx or Coursera style guides. That is to give like not more than 4 to 5 hours per week, watch the video, read the material or slides and then give the end of the subject exam, pass with flying colors, show the certificate of completion and then forget all that you have learned within days of your study.
Even using the above method, I discovered that more than 70% of people who are even paid subscribers quit their learning mid of the course. At the start of the statistic learning, I felt pity for those quitters as I firmly believed that I am not one of them. I was so confident because in all my degree one on one learning, I never quit any of the courses I started. Thus it came as a shock to me when on after paying 11 months ongoing subscription to Coursera, finally I stopped my payment on Jan 2022 without completing the course I started. I literally joined the team of 70% who quit and I have my own pile of reasons why.
But I know internally I am not a quitter. There was like Cognitive Dissonance on my own belief system when my actions did not match with my own thinking. Thus I began the journey to understand the actual reason why? and for me, the answer came not in all the excuses, but in the fact of the statement, ” I am actually studying the wrong way.”
The first and foremost step will be to acknowledge and accept that online studies are way different than one-to-one or university studies. This is a simple statement and we all superficially use it, but no one goes into deep thinking of what it means to learn from these two ways of learning.
In the book, “The Social Animal” by David Brooks, the author in some lines explains that the physical touch of parents is important for a newborn and the physical presence of the teacher is important in early learning for the development of neurons. It is like monkeys see monkeys do, humans also learn the subject mimicking the nature, thoughts, and other ambiance produced in a classroom.
I won’t argue that online learning is then a no-go at all, but we do have to change or implement a few of the things which we use to do in classroom teaching.
To list a few would be:
Use carrot and stick model: Give yourself a reward which will release a positive harmones in your neurological system to associate the happiness with your studies. Also, provide yourself with a significant punishment if you fail to complete a task or studies. Though I prefer the Carrot (rewards) over the stick (punishment) but I would like to emphasise their should be a consequence of our ether actions or attitude towards our studies.
Do not sign up for Multiple Course: We might sign up as the course is cheap, or trendy and keep on adding the list as it is convinient to do so. But remeber its easy to add coursces on your bucket list or shopping kart, but it is difficult to put that course material inside your brain. It requires a lot of hardwork.
Motivation is a Myth: This comes form Ali Abdaal teachings and you can search on Youtube from the author itslef if you want to learn more about what that point is stating, “Motivation is a Myth”. But in short it means that we should never postponed our studies for a time when we are in right mood for it. It is like going to a job or movie. Fix a time, start the show, the motivation will kick in after 5 to 10 mins into your studies.
Communicate with other Learners: This is one of the big mistake I have done in the past. Remember the story of the Deaf Frog who climbed the Mountain ? I also made a video on it few years back. It says like 1000 frogs one day decided to climb the mountain, 10 quit at the start as the journey was difficult, they motivated 100 to quit as it was so cold, they motivated 500 to quit as they forgot to bring food, they motivated remaing ones to quit as the journey and idea seems impossible except one. The reason was he/she a Deaf frog. Deaf frog was not able to listen the reasons of the quitters and thus did not join the 70% club. (In this story 99% club of quitters.)
Repetition is Important: This last point is the main reason of my motivation to write this blog post. And 5 mins before I started this draft I talked with one my friend “Asad” who has recenty completed two Microsoft Asure two certification in last two months. And now I will be going against the Rule 4 mentioned above. His way of learning is (A: Exposure) to go throught the whole material of the whole course, not just one or two sub subjects, but the whole course like Binge Watching a Neflix Series. We retain only 10 to 40% of the content explained in this first run of going through the material. (B: Retention Detailing) Then 2nd time we go through the material in bit detail and slow paced. This is the time we absorb more as we already know the main storyline thus we are well aware where to focus on and where not to. (C: Memory) The 3rd run will be with slides or notes as most online cources have them, this is again a faster approach as we are aware of the content we are in a little bit kind of memorisation state at this stage. (D: Active Reacall) In the fourth or finall run of the whole material you go through the whole content of the course with pausing at each start of the heading/video/slide and asking youself “What is the authour going to say in this content?”. This is the testing phase. The fourth reading is to be done without even looking inside of the content or only go through the content if you are not able to recall what is being taugh. Remember Testing is a Part of the Learning Process. And Testing is to be done before appearing for the main End of Subject Exam.
The above 5 points, if followed with devotion will make the online journey of studies worthwhile. Ya point number 4 is a bit arguable but it also depends on what kind of personality you are. As Steve Jobs has observed and said, “A players like to stay with A players” and “B players like to stick with B”. Thus if you really want to jump from being a B player to being an A player then you do have to put in enough energy to break the threshold. And understand yourself is that journey really worth it?
I will sign off for this post with an open mind to learn further and keep recording my journey on this blog post as well as my Youtube Channel. Hope to see you in the next post, next video, or next life whichever comes earlier.
Sitting, working or study at “home” I am daily bombared with many commercial adds. Tapping deep down to my insecurity or just touching the peak of my craving curve. These adds, target the basic choice of a person. Though I am learing Data Science and I am hopeful to be on the other side of the imaganary line where I will be making software and Data Analysis platforms that can predict a model or some behaviourial pattern. But currently on primitive side of the imaginary line, these “Wants” are of a big distraction.
Thus instead of giving on to those Wants” I am just making another list here with pictures of all the things I want, instead of the ones I actually need.
Playstation Five PS5
Its been pending since the start of the year. Probably the lack of availabilty in the current market makes it more desirable. I currenlty have a PS4 and probaly more than 100 games. Actually exactly 121 Games (I just checked my list) and out of that more than 50 are my Retirement Plan Games. Still the Craving for buying a PS5 is an itch difficult to get out of.
Play Station Five PS5
2. An M1 Apple
This is an expensive one as well thus more difficult to decide on one. Since the annouce of M1 processor and my Professor suggesting me to buy a mac to do Data Science instead of the Windows I am use to. I am actually confused between the two. Should I go for a Mac Mini which is equaly powerful as the Mac Book Pro using an M1 Processor.
Mac M1 Machines
3. Nintendo Switch (unpatched)
Since the time I learned that Nintendo switch can be homebrewed I wanted one my hand. I knew only the first generation can be modified without the use of a soildering skills that I do not have now. I wanted to try out the what all a small platformer can do with modifying its softwares
Nintendo Switch with Atmosphere Installed in it
4. Back Massager
This is the one craving I am ready to give into. Spending at least 8 hours on chair in front of my system, this is the one thing I am eager to buy as soon as possible. I have see the cheaper model of Massaging Instrumentation at nearest Kmart and I guess this is the one on my bucketlist before Dec 2021. The craving started when I went to one of my freinds’ (MJ’s) house warming party and used a similar model kept on his dinning chair.
Back and Thigh Massager
5. A portable Vaccume Cleaner
One of my household duty is to keep the house clearn or at least Vaccume it once a week. My current vaccume clearns is eons old and thus I wanted to upgrade it from past month. Though I am very keen to upgrade to a Codless vaccume cleaner but comparing its power and runntime only being 20 minutes, I would probably buy a Chorded one.
I-Vac X20 Stick Vaccume Cleaner
6. Go Pro Camera
I know I know my list is mostly of electric and electronic cravings but an Action Cam is one on my list from a very long time. Especially since the time I learned that the new Go_Pro Hero 9 has inbuild image stabilization and thus even if you walk and capure something, the video comes without any shakes even on 4k 60 frames per second.
Go Pro Hero 9
7. Google Pixel 6
I wanted to upgrade my mobile(Moto G9 Plus) since last November which it got its first crack on its screen within first month of its purchase. The warrenty did not cover the glass damage and though its a good working mobile still it was not the first choice at the time of purchase. I have used a Pixel 3 and I am aware of the Google Phone performance thus would like to switch back to it as and when possible and not being heavy on my pocket.
Google Pixel 6
8. iPad Pro
This is another latest crave arised when making Mathematics Videos on my Youtube Channle. I recently started a journey of Revisting the NCERT/CBSE mathematics books from Class 1 to 12 ( link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kFRKyUlm9dA&list=PLyLjJEJ59imz19Zh6qZIG5tZoC9oSQwYP ) While expaling anything on camera, many times I feel like there should be something which I can write on to show what I am thinking while explaining any maths problem This lead to search of devices with Pen capture and finally I landed on Ipad Pro which can do the job along with other stuff.
iPad Pro with Pen
9. Mirrorless Camera (Originaly Thought DSLR)
If/when I have a Go-Pro and Google Pixcel, I dont really need a good video capture device. But this list is not of the needs anyway. Thus I thought why not include the long awaited DSLR on my list. Currently the DSLR would be very heavy thus I switched on to the craving of possessing an Mirrorless with 4k 60 to 120 fps caputre and that is only possible in a camera ranging way above my pocket range. Cannon R5 or R6 are on the market that caters that “want”
Cannon R6
10. 4k Laser Projector
It was either this or a 75 inch TV. But in house if we really want the Theater Kinda feeling then a 4K Laser project is something I would plan for when I will buy a house of my own.
4k Laser Projector
All the images used in this post belong to their respecive creators fond on the web. My list could have been longer but currently all togher they have crossed my annual earning already. Thus even to think more I have to first expand my pocket or source of earning then dream upon making the Sand Castel.
If in your dream purchase list matches mine, please do write it on the comment section below. And if my list gets updated, either I will update this one with more items or just make another list next year.
Tapish Dongre 